As in other areas of their lives, Commanders approach dating and relationships with a set of goals and a plan to achieve them, and proceed to do so with impressive energy and enthusiasm.
People with the Commander personality type are in it to win, and will gladly take leading roles in relationships from the start, assuming personal responsibility for how smoothly things go and working actively to ensure a mutually rewarding experience.
ENTPs love speculating and debating, dealing largely in hypotheticals.
They enjoy bouncing from one topic to the next, as one idea quickly begets associations with another.
At this point, I want to pause to point out that authentic love, for any Thinking type, has little to do with feelings or infatuation.
Rather, healthy and authentic relationships for Thinkers are based on T things (as well as N things in the case of ENTPs) rather than on F matters.
So when we ask what ENTPs seek in a relationship, we are in many ways asking what Ne seeks in a relationship.
As an extraverted function, Ne is concerned with a breadth of ideas and possibilities in the outside world.
As dominant Perceivers, ENTPs love taking in the world.At the same time though, Commander personalities keep their eyes on the long term, and if they determine that a relationship is heading towards a dead end, they will cut their losses and move on in what will seem to their partner an abrupt end to the attention they had been receiving.This occasional ruthlessness with personal relationships is Commanders’ primary weakness, and if they aren’t careful they can develop quite the reputation.Sensing others’ feelings and emotions will never be a comfortable skill for Commanders, but it is critical that they work consciously to develop it, both for their partners’ sake and for their own healthy emotional expression.
If they don’t, they risk dominating and overruling their partners, and this insensitivity can easily break a relationship, especially early on.
Fortunately the same logic that dismisses emotions is also able to recognize that a conciliatory attitude can be the best tool to get the job done.