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The behaviors are designed to send the message: “You hurt me now I’m going to hurt you.” As alluded to earlier, the more intense the ugliness, the higher the guy’s level of pain.
In many ways, this paradoxical approach makes the man feel worse due to intense feelings of guilt.
The only exception to this would be if the guy is a narcissist or sociopath. Direct Dump: This one is exactly what it sounds like; a sudden end to the romance.
Contrary to what’s depicted in popular culture, most guys don’t use booze to cope.
I’d like to share with you the story of a friend of mine named Steve.
At 35 years of age, he thought he’d found the woman of his dreams.
If I had a dime for every time I’ve been told, “When a guy’s relationship ends, he moves on to the next girl. Much of this is linked to typical alpha male characteristics and the need to appear in control. Research has found that decreased contact is the preferred method by guys (Baxter, 1982).
Women sit around and pout.” Another one I hear is: “Guys get through breakups by hooking up,” and “It’s easy for guys to breakup because they don’t get emotional.” I’m sure you’ve heard variations. All of this leads us to the 10 most common strategic approaches taken by men as part of relational disengagement. Men will often employ this tactic when intimacy was historically low with a mate and there’s little likeihood of maintaining a friendship. Truth distortion: Not all that common, but some guys will engage in various forms of distortion as a post-break up strategy.
After dating her for three years, there had been serious talk about the two getting married – perhaps even starting a family. There were a variety of reasons that fed into their relational collapse, including problems with trust and infidelity – on both of their parts.